Should I Learn To Drive With Family And Friends?

👉 Can a friend / family member teach me to drive?
👉 The pros of learning to drive with a friend or family
👉 The cons of learning to drive with a friend or family
👉 Our ten cents
👉 FAQs

So, you've decided you want to learn to drive, but you're not sure if you should learn with a family member, friend, or driving instructor. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all policy for learning to drive; it really is whatever suits you best. Some people prefer the comfort and familiarity of a friend or family, and others prefer an official driving instructor. We’ve broken down the arguments for and against learning to drive with a friend or family, so that you can make an informed decision on how you learn to drive. For more information on all things driving tests, visit our blog 'everything you need to know about passing your driving test'.

Can A Friend / Family Member Teach Me To Drive?

You can learn to drive with anyone who has been driving for at least three years. But if they charge you money, they need to be a qualified instructor. The car you learn in must be the same one your family or friend is eligible to drive (For example, if your dad is only licenced to drive an automatic, he cannot teach you to drive in a manual vehicle).

If you don't follow these rules, you could get a fine.

The Pros Of Learning To Drive With Friends And Family

• A friendly face: We get it. Learning to drive can be scary, so having someone you're comfortable with can help you feel more relaxed. You might also feel less judged by a friend than by an instructor.
• Communication already in place: You know the best ways to get through to each other, which can help when giving instructions and guidance mid-driving. You might also feel that you can be more honest with each other, which can help you learn quicker.
• Greater flexibility: Having a friend/family to teach you can mean you get more lessons more often. Not having to wait for appointments can get you learning quicker and for longer too.
• Save ££: Learn with a friend or family member and save a ton of money on driving lessons. The average driving lesson can be anywhere from £25 to £45, meaning you could pay up to £2,000 before you take your test. We've taken a look at the general cost of learning to drive in our piece 'how much does it cost to learn to drive'.

The Cons If You Learn To Drive With Family And Friends

• Lower level of teaching: Instructors charge you for a reason. They are well-trained and certified in spotting mistakes and can provide tips on how to improve. Using a friend or family member might lead to certain errors being missed that could catch you out in your test.
• Miss out on a professional driving plan: A friend might not be able to teach you in the same way that an instructor does. An instructor can break down the lessons into smaller parts to help you improve gradually. We've taken a deep dive into driving instructors in our blog 'how to choose a driving instructor'.
• Can you properly focus? Learning to drive with a friend or family member can be fun, but could you be too relaxed? A driving test is a serious process. Learning in stricter conditions can be helpful, but a friend or family member might make it too casual.
• Miss out on dual control: As you will have to learn in the other person’s car, you won’t have access to the safety of dual control. All instructor vehicles come with dual control, allowing them to take control from the passenger seat if an issue arises. If something goes wrong in your friend’s car, will they be able to correct the issue?
• Pick up bad habits: A friend or family member has likely driven for a while and may have picked up some bad habits. The difference between being test-ready and road-ready can be different, and picking up bad habits before a test can see you earning avoidable minors. Take a look at some of the most common minors and majors people make on their tests.
• Could experience the complete opposite of a relaxing experience: Family members can sometimes make driving stressful. Different dynamics to an instructor could lead to more arguments and your family losing their patience much quicker than an instructor would.

Interested in learning with an instructor? Check out our guide on what to look for in a car driving instructor.

Our Ten Cents

Learning to drive with someone you know has its benefits, like feeling more comfortable and relaxed. But you might miss out on the quality of the guidance you receive. If you can afford it, we recommend going with a driving instructor, as this will ensure you have a more complete understanding of driving. However, that's not to say that learning with a friend or family member doesn't sometimes work. It's ultimately up to you, and we'd recommend taking your time to decide what's best for you.

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